He’s Just Not That Into You: Don’t Waste The Pretty

In 2004 the book He’s Just Not That Into You came out and got a lot of attention among women. Oprah had the authors, Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo on her show that same year. It was an incredible hit. Behrendt and Tuccillo were handing out honest advice for women on dating, and women were ready to hear it.
“I’m about to make a wild, extreme and severe relationship rule: the word busy is a load of crap and is most often used by a**h***s. The word “busy” is the relationship Weapon of Mass Destruction. It seems like a good excuse, but in fact in every silo you uncover, all you’re going to find is a man who didn’t care enough to call. Remember men are never to busy to get what they want.” -Greg Behrendt
Truer words have never been spoken. There are several reasons why this type of “cut and dry”, “to the point” kind of advice is good.
1. It comes from a male perspective. Women value their male friends’ opinions sometimes more than their girlfriends, simply because it is the opposite sex.
2. Its to the point! This type of advice requires women to get real. 
In a recent article posted by Psychology Today discussed this book. This is an excerpt from
Couldn’t you frame the “He’s just not that into me” message in gentler terms, like, “Maybe he’s not the guy for me” or “I deserve someone who treats me well,” or even “Oh well, I guess he just doesn’t realize how awesome I am”?
Let me ask you something….would you rather have a sugar coated, fluffy version of the truth? I mean…this is your heart we are talking about. Do women really want to be strung around and be told one thing just to make them feel  better in the moment? Perhaps some do. But I think those would be classified as girls. Women on the other hand value their hearts and are truth seekers, and frankly, don’t have time for fluff. That is some true love advice. And I get it….we are all trying to protect our egos. It is hurtful to come to the realization that you are just not someones’ cup of tea. But honesty will only serve you in the future and help you know when to cut the cord earlier rather than later.
In the words of Greg Behrendt:
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